Grocery stores are my passion. I recently went to Fairway and cried.
What’s your favorite age?
22 was a dope year, but I think 32 is going to be the best year of my life. We’ll check back in.
What do you admire most in others?
I need to know how people keep secrets. Anytime something newsworthy happens to me, I have to share it.
Something that turns you off immediately?
Inflexibility, being a downer. Put a smile on your face and get happy.
What makes you smile?
Surprises, fresh flowers, a mango that has already been cut up and peeled for me, a note in the mail.
What’s your biggest insecurity or fear?
Did you see that Ask Polly response called ‘You Are Not Uniquely Fucked?’ I’m sitting with the idea that I’m just… a normal person. I may have a pedestrian life. Maybe there’s nothing extraordinary about me. I’m forcing myself to come to terms with it because it’s probably true.
When do you feel like the best version of yourself?
When I feel that I’ve been open-hearted and honest and helped someone. Or when I’ve gone for a run and had a smoothie before 9 AM.
Words you live by?
“Sharpen your oyster knife.” It’s a phrase from a Zora Neale Hurston essay called How It Feels To Be Colored Me. I read it for the first time when I was 18, and it blew my entire world open. She was upset at this perception people had of her—because she was black, and because she was a woman—that she had to lead this down-trodden and sorrowful life. She says in it, “No, I do not weep at the world—I am too busy sharpening my oyster knife.” And, “Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can anyone deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It is beyond me.” I read it and thought, ‘Oh…. this is about me.’ It’s been especially relevant in my adult years. I could fall prey to despair, or I could remind myself: “No, your knife is getting sharper. The world is more attainable.”
What have you yet to figure out?
My hair. Maybe at 32.
What have you figured out?
I want to have a baby… someday. I’ve told my therapist and my friends so I can now tell the internet. It’s a very new feeling that I’m working on accepting! I used to believe if you wanted to be a successful, powerful woman with a really impressive career, that having a baby is not compatible with that. But now I know that I want to make room in my life for that option. In… many, many years.